Mr. Holmes #1

Dear Mr. Holmes,

Valentine's is coming. I have no prospects. I don't want to be single yet again on Valentine's Day, or I shall be miserable! Will you assist me in solving the mystery? Please help!

Yours,
Suffering in SF

Dear Suffering in SF,

Look here my dear fellow. Have you considered that Valentine's Day is just a day? Where is this pressure coming from that you must have a boyfriend for Feb 14th, come hell or high water? Think how many other singles there are out there in the world. Why, if we all felt the way you do, Valentine's Day would be a more dreary event than Princess Anne's birthday.

Perhaps another perspective? How about calling up some of your single friends and throwing a party, or alternatively going out on the town with them? You might just be surprised how many other single gents you'll run into. You see, as my GayRelate colleagues so eloquently explain in their program, the danger lies in believing "everybody else is paired up and I'm not," because then you start to blame yourself for being single and to see it as a failure on your part.

Once you realize that you have control over how you want to be on Valentine's, and make plans accordingly - perhaps with friends or with an escort - your loneliness will disappear.

Watson and I shall be putting our feet up by the fire, smoking our pipes and having a gay old time.

God save the Queen(s)!
Sherlock Holmes, Esq.

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